via Daily Prompt: Expect
Human relations is an art.You become an adept in it as you grow in age and as your relationship grows.When you are single you are self-dependant and you have no reason to expect anything from any body.However, despite being single, when you get employed, you enter into an official relationship with your colleagues and with your boss or your immediate superior. By virtue of your employment, you are forced into inter-se relationship with your colleagues in your office.In fact you are the head of an organ in the structure of your office what is called organisation.As an official or employee of your organisation you are duty bound and you complete your assigned work.
On your personal side,when you get married your single status is gone and you have a life partner called wife.You go into family way and by that way you have a family relationship.As days goes by, by virtue of your cohabitation, your wife begets a child and naturally the size of your family grows.
By virtue of your employment you are an employee or an official in the organisation in which you are employed.By virtue of your marriage, you have got a spouse and children.Now the moot question is what governs your official and family relationship?Are you self-reliant in your office and in your family? Do you expect any thing from your colleagues in your office in the course of your offcial relationship and do you expect anything from your wife in the course of your family relationship?
Bagavad Gita says:’Do your duty;Don’t expect any benefit in return.’What Gita says is idealistic and it applies only to the interse relationship between you and your family members.However,in any organisation in which you are a paid employee, the organisation expects an output or result from you what is called productivity in tune with your ability or capacity and your power.
In your family,your wife expects a living standard in tune with your earning capacity.In turn you expect a natural care, love and affection from your wife and your children expect a caring coupled with love and affection.
After all you are social animal.Whether it be your office or your family, you have to necessarily mingle with others.In your office, though you have a role to play with,you are inter dependant with your colleagues.In your house, you and your wife have separate and individual roles to play with but within the ambit of your family.And so it is quite natural to expect something as an official from your colleagues and as the head of the family from your family members.If anything goes wrong, it disrupts your official duty and you get estranged from your family.
When you fail or neglect your official duty or your output from your work or employment does not match your colleagues or does not attain a minimum expected standard of your company or your employer, disciplinary action is taken against you for your dereliction of your duty as per the rules and regulations of your organisation.If your employer happens to be in the category of unorganised sector, the punishment you get may be even severe.In an organised sector, you are punished according to the gravity of your mistake or error and in extreme cases, the employer may suspend you or even dismiss you from service.
Being the family man or the head of a family, you are under the moral obligation and it is your bounden duty to maintain your family.When you fail or neglect your family, your dependants suffer and in the absence of any source to maintain themselves,they may seek the intervention of the court to get maintenance from you.In case of any marital dispute that arise between you and your spouse, you or your spouse may seek appropriate reliefs through a court of law.
In a peaceful family, when your children are grown up, you are bound to educate them; once they finish their education, you have to guide them in seeking suitable employments for them.When you have aged parents, your duty is to maintain them with love and affection.As and when your children attain their age for marriage, you may arrange their marriage and when they fall in love, then you have to see that it culminates into marriage as smoothly as possible.However,these are all only your obligations and duties of a parent.But as a father, you cannot expect anything in return from your children and even from your spouse.
Apart from the official relationship with your employer in the organisation in which you are employed and in your personal relationship with your family members,you have an outer world in which you come across many people.